Wedding Music : The don’ts

So we covered the must play songs at your wedding. Are there songs that you should not play or moments where there should not be music?

Leaving out a “do-not-play” list


While planning for your wedding, of course, you will be excited to list out the songs that you would like the band to perform but remember not to leave out a “do-not-play” list as well. It may be songs by certain artists that you both do not like or songs that bring up bad memories. Hand the list over to the band and let them know to leave these out.



Though it may be obvious that you should choose happy songs for your wedding, you may not be totally aware of some of the lyrics behind the happy tunes. Think “Marry you” by Bruno Mars, for example. The song may stand out to you as a must play because of the title, but if you look at the lyrics, it is actually not all that happily ever after.

‘Cause it’s a beautiful night, we’re looking for something dumb to do
Hey baby, I think I wanna marry you

Is it the look in your eyes, or is it this dancing juice
Who cares baby, I think I wanna marry you

Well I know this little chapel on the boulevard
We can go
No one will know
Oh c’mon girl

Who cares if we’re trashed
Got a pocket full of cash we can blow
Shots of Patron
And it’s on girl’

Yup, don’t think that’s the most ideal song to march in to.

We do have couples with a sense of humour, dedicating songs like “I Will Survive” for their march-in. We do our due diligence and make sure they are aware of the meaning behind the song. The bride’s cheeky reasoning for choosing the piece, “My husband will survive this”.

Sticking to one genre

Remember at your banquet, you will be having friends and family who may have different tastes in music from you. So have the band perform more than one genre, to mix it up a little. Knowing your singer’s or band’s strength is important, you definitely want them to be able to handle the song well. So if you hire a jazz band, don’t throw them a Nirvana song to perform. It will be good to have some classic Mandarin songs in the repertoire as well so that the older folks get to enjoy the music too.


Above are just some of the areas to look into. If you have any questions or topics, do let us know by emailing us at and we may write about it.


We at Vocalise believe in creating a kaleidoscopic trove of everlasting memories. We understand that cookie-cutter style packages – while convenient – may not be everyone’s cup of tea. If you seek a little more finesse or pizzazz for your event’s entertainment, Vocalise is here to help you realise that. If a particular artiste or instrumental set-up has caught your eye and you wish to discuss further with regard to any specifications, or you’re feeling overwhelmed by thoughts and ideas on what sort of live entertainment would be most ideal, feel free to chat with us! We’d love to hear from you, and we’d be more than happy to mix things up for your event.

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